Comments on: He ain’t heavy, He mah babydaddy!

By: lula

lula — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 08:36:41 +0000

Not married, although we can in every country that we are affiliated with (and there are three).

But I’ve resisted so far. Everyone knows we are together; we are financially set as far as the deed to the house goes, insurance, taxes (file jointly), etc. Munchkin’s papers will be in order somewhere next year after the naturalization papers come through.

What’s the point of getting married if you can also divorce? We’ve been together for 11 years now; I don’t see any changes in the works. And every time I watch bridezillas or hear about the expense involved in a wedding, I just say to myself: more to set aside to pay for that second (holiday) home we hope to buy one day.

As for a term to cover the concept: life partner, significant other, etc. I think wife or husband sound so proprietary.

By: Ali

Ali — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 22:03:13 +0000

The timing of our marriage was dictated by very unromantic necessities (like visas). Without that shove, we may never have gotten round to it. It’s just one of those things that is so easy to put off. Why bother? Think of the expense!

But I am very glad that something pushed us into doing the deed. Because referring to him as ‘my hubby’ is one of lifes little pleasures. And with kids, it just makes things a little simpler.

By: SCM

SCM — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 17:58:32 +0000

I’ve been with my fella for 4.5 years and we don’t even live together, let alone the marriage malarkey. It just suits us for many reasons (won’t go into them here) at the moment.
We don’t have children so the thought of being married for that doesn’t come into it.

If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. If it feels right, do it.
Just don’t do it for the wrong reasons.

Just realised this is probably no help at all. Oops.

By: Jo Beaufoix

Jo Beaufoix — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 17:36:08 +0000

Ahhh, how about your bloke? We are married, but we lived together 6 years before and got married because we both wanted kids and we wanted the same name. If we’d had kids before we got married it would have been ok too. That said, I hate saying, “My husband or hubby’, it all feels a bit twee and makes me think of the Queen’s speech.

By: byrney

byrney — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 07:10:27 +0000

Just read your add on.…I got married because it was really important to Richard to be married if we had kids. I can see his point because IF the Mum dies it isn’t clear cut that the Dad keeps the kids not even if you have a will saying that!!!! That surprised me but we were told it when we made our will… more in respect to the part where we named our guardians should we both die, aparently this is open to contest even though we have specified what should happen!! Will’s…waste of time! lol